Dating and the single mom
“It may be tempting to not discuss these things right away but in the long run you will save yourself a lot of time by filtering out the people who can’t accommodate your needs,” said licensed marriage and family therapist Irene Schreiner.
“They may be harboring the belief that you will get back with their other parent, or even embarrassed to have to think about their mom being romantic with someone new.” The answer? “This is a great way for your kids to see that a desire you have for adult love and romance is actually quite common,” added Mc Dermott.When you think your kids are old and/or mature enough — and only you can make that call — keep it casual by simply mentioning you have a date you’re looking forward to.This isn’t a time to call a family meeting to discuss the merits of having a stepparent.it’s a pretty nice place to be.” Finally, there’s no point telling you not to feel guilty, because it’s a natural part of being a mom, and who needs to feel guilty about feeling guilty?You might always have a fleeting pang of shame when you leave your kids with the babysitter to go out for the night.
And it’s OK to show your kids that dating isn’t always easy.