Hes dating someone else
We started out dating, and had a strong sexual relationship.
I had really major self-esteem issues, and he has a mess of depression issues, so these things playing off of each other led him to decide we needed to back off.
When we feel guilty about our decisions, we often avoid eye contact with the person we feel we’re hurting, or the person who is calling us out on our BS.
It’s a subconscious thing, but, with eyes being the windows to the soul and all, it can be difficult to stare someone in the face when we’re hiding our true feelings or intentions.
I wear my heart on my sleeve, so my thoughts about him may not be /fully/ out there... His advice was to not do anything to disrupt the friendship, because it is so ingrained in my life, enjoy the friendship, and be mindful of how quickly time can change things. If someone's taking up that much of my time, we'd better be dating, or they can get lost." I think you maybe need to tell him that and see what he says.
In a month he could be all over me or I could be over him. If he can hold a conversation with you for 3/4 hours a day (Hell, I have a hard time doing that with guys I'm in a relationship with), he can handle getting that ultimatum.
If your dude has done most of these 21 things then, sorry, but you’ve already lost him.If someone's taking up that much of my time, we'd better be dating, or they can get lost."I don't know what to do/what to think... You are clearly available and interested in him, he's still with the other guy, so you have your answer. If he's worth it, you owe it to yourself to move on for the time being and make yourself happy. He might know how you feel, but before you give up on him thinking you've been friendzoned, have you actually, recently talked to him?Edit: I should also probably make it clear that we all know how I feel. Edit2: I talked to my college's LGBT leader about this. If he's that wonderful, these feelings can be revived... Personally, I agree with "He's dating someone else and consuming 80 hours of my life a week.If your dude is finding it hard to maintain eye contact with you when you’re having a normal conversation – not an interrogation – it could be because his eyes are actually on someone else!When we’re in love with someone, we like to stare deep into their eyes.
There are times however when something slips through, and our attention is briefly on him (he'll call or something while we're together for example), and these things hurt me a lot as he tries to damage control. And we slept separately, which I expected, but was still hurt by.