International dating customs
Lobola is intended to bring together two families, fostering mutual respect.
It also indicates that the groom is financially capable of supporting his wife.
If you are not German native or have never been to Germany, you may find some cultures very different than yours. Ask them directly Most German are open minded and don’t like anyone who beat around the bush.
Circumcision, which is usually performed on males is, in some cultures, performed on females as well.
The ritual is usually spread over a period of several months and the one being circumcised is forbidden from screaming or crying because doing so is considered cowardly behaviour.
It is believed that complications arising from circumcision are the fault of the victim because they are either being punished for having done something wrong or they are too weak to be qualified as men.
Every country has their own culture and customs to be followed, including in dating.
All in all, different things happen for different condition.